Actually, it's usually a bit more positive than all that as we try to lift each other out of the pitfalls that plague a life devoted to creating. If you think you'd like to join or learn more about our band of merry misfits, click the pic below.
IWSG - Failure To Launch
Why do we fail? Sometimes a very difficult and complex question to answer.
A wise woman (my mother) once told me that we only truly fail at the things we never attempt. That logic yields an equally powerful and simple answer to the previous difficult and complex question: Success is in the trying, not the accomplishing.
TOTALLY didn't jibe with Yoda's "Do or do not. There is no try." by the way. But I like to think of my mother as a Real World Jedi, so I'll side with her on this one. :-)
I've found the advice has played out as almost universally true in my life. I really only view missed opportunities due to inaction or indecision on my part as failures. When I've decided to get in the game and play--outcome be damned--I almost always feel as if I've won something.
That's not to say I'm a raging success at everything I do.
Sometimes I win by falling on my face and learning the limits of what I can and can't do...
Sometimes I win by screwing up so much I eventually learn the right way of doing things by default (see also - writing)...
Sometimes I win by feeling just inadequate enough to keep trying until I'm proficient...
Sometimes I win--like a kid touching a hot stove--by simply knowing and understanding more about the world than when I started...
While those aren't the stuff of workplace motivational posters, they're markers of growth in my book. And not standing still, trying, is all I'm usually after.
I bring all of this up for IWSG today, because I think in writing in particular, we're sometimes so terrified by lofty ideas of success and failure that we neglect to even start.
Maybe we don't want to go up to the starting line because we aren't sure exactly where the finish line is. Maybe the other runners are more accomplished and we feel we won't stand a chance. Maybe we're worried that everyone will have gone home and not notice when we do finally finish the race.
There are so many reasons to not start, and I can't tell you how much success you'll have if you do go for it. But I can promise you, you will fail if you never try.
If you knew you could only measure success by the effort you gave in the attempt, what would you try?
And speaking of trying and being bold, a good writer-blogger friend, Nick Wilford, started up his own editing business this week. Nick is extremely dedicated to the writing craft, and I can say from previous interactions on a project, he's a joy to work with. So I'm sure he'll do great things with his business. If you're interested in learning more about his services, jump HERE.