tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post5678003631261521682..comments2023-10-26T06:33:50.775-05:00Comments on E.J. Wesley, Author: Music Love Week: An Enduring Love Is The GreatestAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00273059558675234923noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-81862660609415210562012-08-21T18:39:42.022-05:002012-08-21T18:39:42.022-05:00Dude, The Luckiest is what my hubby and I danced t...Dude, The Luckiest is what my hubby and I danced to on our wedding day. ;0) And yes, I agree with what love is. Jenny S. Morrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482342313938669366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-79184812188492483142012-07-26T22:23:07.190-05:002012-07-26T22:23:07.190-05:00This is so true! Love takes work and there are mo...This is so true! Love takes work and there are moments when things could go either way. Congrats to your parents and grandparents for making it work. My parents are divorced and I am someone who likes to keep the lines of communication open and not pretend certain possibilites couldn't happen. I think it helps. By the way- I love Ben Folds! Great video clip. :) <br />~JessDMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04202502753961748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-75863349633893535342012-06-10T12:19:55.970-05:002012-06-10T12:19:55.970-05:00Wow. Isn't that the truth! I will unfortunatel...Wow. Isn't that the truth! I will unfortunately have to jump off the cliff and start over. Sometimes it's the best option though.Krisztina Cliftonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10083709968500243900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-39522417656711466482012-06-05T08:53:40.125-05:002012-06-05T08:53:40.125-05:00This was more of a 'devotion' thought proc...This was more of a 'devotion' thought process than any kind of relationship advice. In my small hometown I can remember my sis being treated like an outcast when she divorced her first husband. (To be clear, this was in the 2000s, not 1800s.) He had major issues with drugs among other things. Still, she struggled with making the decision because of social pressure.<br /><br /> In short, I absolutely think divorce is the right answer sometimes. There are such things as irreconcilable differences. Verbal, mental and physical abuse happens. Bad relationships can turn your life into misery. No one deserves to go through life miserable. We all deserve to be happy most of the time. <br /><br />I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, "Sometimes, they're a lot of work. But what I think is that this person, who may be annoying the hell out of me at one moment, is my world, my other half, my SIGNIFICANT other and deserves patience and understanding to get through those times." <br /><br />Lots of people aren't willing to fight through the general disagreements and the average stuff that happens in a long-term relationship. You won't be happy ALL of the time. You're going to fight. You're going to yell on occasion. You can't be entirely individualistic in a relationship, so you might have to give on some things that are important to you to keep it going. That's all okay, because the payoff of having a partner is worth it. I think that's the message I was shooting for. No it's an old post, but I really appreciate you taking the time comment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273059558675234923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-77655322817601794372012-06-04T23:18:16.637-05:002012-06-04T23:18:16.637-05:00I like what you said here. I agree for the most p...I like what you said here. I agree for the most part. On my second marriage now...but staying in an abusive marriage was not an option (with the first). All relationships are work. Sometimes, they're a lot of work. But what I think is that this person, who may be annoying the hell out of me at one moment, is my world, my other half, my SIGNIFICANT other and deserves patience and understanding to get through those times. Because when things are good, they're outstanding. He's my best friend and I think that's important.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-80666179170840838602012-04-16T15:45:24.312-05:002012-04-16T15:45:24.312-05:00You're right, a lasting marriage takes a lot o...You're right, a lasting marriage takes a lot of hard work. My husband and I have been married for almost 22 years. We have always talked over things in our lives a lot. I've been known to use pie charts a few times. It goes something like this: See this little slice right here? That's me and the other little slice is our kids. The large slice is your job. We'd like to have a larger slice. Yes, pie charts are great.Sherri Lackeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12574448009541412249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-16058665806528293302012-02-19T14:41:39.515-06:002012-02-19T14:41:39.515-06:00Terrific post, EJ!
My parents have stayed togethe...Terrific post, EJ!<br /><br />My parents have stayed together, their parents before them. My brothers are happily married with good wives, and my eldest brother was happily married until he passed away.<br /><br />Of my sisters, whom I'm no longer on speaking terms with, one is on her second marriage, and the other finished off her first marriage.<br /><br />I'm the last of the pack to still be single.William Kendallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00331324250821836822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-16184627781585703552012-02-16T18:20:39.738-06:002012-02-16T18:20:39.738-06:00Another great post, E.J. I loe it when you write p...Another great post, E.J. I loe it when you write personal stuff. Sooo romantic.shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09596621767297173021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-88827361615696442502012-02-15T14:43:42.225-06:002012-02-15T14:43:42.225-06:00Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Love ...Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Love isn't always easy.Nicole Zoltackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07464800543376449290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-24561177534158879462012-02-15T11:40:28.136-06:002012-02-15T11:40:28.136-06:00"What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don..."What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me...no more..."<br /><br />Okay enough singing. E.J., this is a great essay on love. I "love" how you examine it from relationships, through song, and through family. it's a word that gets bantered around a lot but it isn't defined all that well.<br /><br />Oh and I "love" the new blog design. It's very hip.Michael Offutt, Phantom Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10557969104886174930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-74273411088069889062012-02-15T00:49:50.492-06:002012-02-15T00:49:50.492-06:00You're definitely right about commitment. I th...You're definitely right about commitment. I think that's one reason a lot of marriages fail; they think that being in love is enough. But I think that the phrase "love is all we need" is misleading because it doesn't take into account all the things that can get in the way of love, and what people should do to resolve those issues.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-20951432348440674552012-02-14T15:50:32.298-06:002012-02-14T15:50:32.298-06:00Great post and beautifully said! My family are big...Great post and beautifully said! My family are big time 'committers' too. So far there's never been a divorce in my family. My husband's family is another story entirely. ;-)C R Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13212244053084461118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-37435605312690032482012-02-14T13:57:05.130-06:002012-02-14T13:57:05.130-06:00This is a really great post. So impressive that yo...This is a really great post. So impressive that your parents have been married for so long. Those cliff moments are so important to get through together. I've had a a couple good friends end marriages recently and it's been hard to see them struggle.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226974782422398270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-15498865580133647102012-02-14T12:37:11.099-06:002012-02-14T12:37:11.099-06:00No, I don't think it's old fashioned. And ...No, I don't think it's old fashioned. And you hit it on the head - love is work. It takes effort. Love isn't a feeling, it's an action.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-43531915631810929742012-02-14T12:24:51.322-06:002012-02-14T12:24:51.322-06:00This is awesome E.J. I almost cried. I'm going...This is awesome E.J. I almost cried. I'm going to share this with my friend who writes divorce columns for the Huffington Post and she's also an advocate for divorce reform in America. Intangible Heartshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05047040538015079182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-23100789014064072472012-02-14T12:10:36.341-06:002012-02-14T12:10:36.341-06:00Aw, so true. The kind of love that has suffered to...Aw, so true. The kind of love that has suffered together, that has stayed together through the hard times, that has experienced life's ups and downs is a beautiful thing.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15981159884498574786noreply@blogger.com