tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post3114027895012258378..comments2023-10-26T06:33:50.775-05:00Comments on E.J. Wesley, Author: A Writer's Soft UnderbellyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00273059558675234923noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-47272899663314985882012-05-02T11:48:49.151-05:002012-05-02T11:48:49.151-05:00I found and followed your Google+ link! Thanks.
...I found and followed your Google+ link! Thanks. <br /><br />Whaaat? Others have referenced your blog in a negative way? That's bad/sad. Boo. Love the armadillo--may we all be writers with that thick of skin. (But inside we are soft and gooshy and vulnerable.)Carol Riggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092209912983783974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-37691284625114594912012-04-29T14:53:29.521-05:002012-04-29T14:53:29.521-05:00Sometimes it can be really easy to go for the nega...Sometimes it can be really easy to go for the negative, the easy shot. It's much, much harder to let it slide.<br /><br /><br />Oh, and armadillos are even cuter then puppies.William Kendallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00331324250821836822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-73506767647064410812012-04-29T00:02:28.693-05:002012-04-29T00:02:28.693-05:00You know what's brilliant? This: "Vulnera...You know what's brilliant? This: "Vulnerability makes for good writing. Thick skin helps you survive until you find it." Your words are honest and true, and I can totally relate.Julie Musilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02150454913885915017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-7440930461330339902012-04-28T13:54:16.689-05:002012-04-28T13:54:16.689-05:00People referencing your blog negatively? Those peo...People referencing your blog negatively? Those people have got to suck anyway. I'm sure people have hated on my blog what with all my atheist posts and politically charged stuff that I sometimes say. But I don't care. They can hate on me. I recently got a one-star review on Amazon because a dude said he hated spirituality in his science-fiction and it made it boring. What a tool. You're awesome E.J.!Michael Offutt, Phantom Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10557969104886174930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-8394415986300025952012-04-26T18:03:28.136-05:002012-04-26T18:03:28.136-05:00I so hear you on this one! And the thing is, as wr...I so hear you on this one! And the thing is, as writers we not only have to have hard shells to take all the rejection, but we also have to be vulnerable in order to write realistic characters with authentic emotions. It's almost impossible to be both.<br /><br />Oh, and as for the Twitter spam? I got one just this afternoon. So annoying! And so tempting at the same time. Gah! Some of the blog spam I get plays on those same insecurities. Even though I know they're far-off people spamming everyone with the same message, those messages still get to me if I'm feeling particularly low already.Caryn Caldwellhttp://www.caryncaldwell.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-81877329061853097222012-04-26T15:01:22.238-05:002012-04-26T15:01:22.238-05:00As long as the actual joy of the writing outweighs...As long as the actual joy of the writing outweighs these kinds of negatives...I'm good to keep going. My biggest writing credit was in a Sunday Magazine section of our daily paper. Probably hundreds of thousands of people saw it...and I received some very nice mail and email. Then I looked to where the same piece was published online and read some pretty smarmy comments. To me, there was a balance between the good comments I'd received and these online not so good ones. But others who read the online comments (and didn't know about what I'd received personally) took issue and were mad/disappointed for me. It did make me realize that there may be a different motivation for those who comment online, and those who comment via other means. I do think the online folks are a bit more blatant in their need for attention. Does that make sense? I guess it's a bit of a bummer that those online comments have a longer shelf life ...sigh.Lizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170701034715108039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-63650423637855425702012-04-26T12:55:16.387-05:002012-04-26T12:55:16.387-05:00EJ, I love your voice. You're so entertaining....EJ, I love your voice. You're so entertaining. <br /><br />And what a fabulous post. Love it. I've never opened those twitter links either--but it's true, in our line of profession you have to be scared if anyone posts something negative about you. Our world is on the net, and anything can happen here. <br /><br />As to rejection, it's so great once you've gotten past the first hump. Yes, it still stings, but not as bad the further into the process you get. I've come a long way in the last year and it feels good. Feels good to realize how much I've callused. <---LOL. That sounds weird ;) <br /><br />You definitely have your head in the right place and you're a tough one, EJ. That definitely shows. :DMorganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15747144518868320969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-69473026795207972772012-04-26T12:20:21.237-05:002012-04-26T12:20:21.237-05:00Hey E.J, I've been looking around your blog fo...Hey E.J, I've been looking around your blog for your e-mail address and can't find it anywhere (I'm probably just missing it lol.) Can you e-mail me at Alyson_burdette (at) yahoo.com or point me to your adress so we can work out something for my blog tour? Thanks! And thanks for offering to host me. :)Alyson Burdettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16916059117572619004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-40812980343854702992012-04-26T11:07:49.460-05:002012-04-26T11:07:49.460-05:00Haha--the first section had me laughing out loud. ...Haha--the first section had me laughing out loud. "Doing that tomorrow--and that's just for breakfast", hahaha. Indeed, we're not as tough as we look (or not), or even as we'd like. But vulnerability is an important process of growing--both as a writer and as a human being. The flip side (hate it that everything has a flip side, don't you?) is that with too much vulnerability we risk morphing into someone we're not (or writing in ways we wouldn't) just to please others. So, yeah, self-confidence has a place in our vulnerability--those two need to balance each other out.<br /><br />Great post!Guilie Castillohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09006999087139126972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-18550838488389642512012-04-26T10:37:18.016-05:002012-04-26T10:37:18.016-05:00I don't play like that! I was nominated for an...I don't play like that! I was nominated for an award and I did get the vibe from one author,how lame it all was. She also was nominated. A bunch of authors and writing blogs were also given a nod. It was mentioned in the vibe, they were discussing it on FB. I wasn't asked to be part of their group...so I knew what that meant. I was what they were chewing on. They didn't consider me worthy! No one said it to my face, they didn't have to. It hurt, because some of the nods follow my blog. I took the nomination off my blog site. I thought it was a nice gesture, but every time I saw it I felt them laughing at me. Okay, I'm not published, I need grammar for Dummies, I get it. It is great when those who are paving the way can feel good about themselves, while they try to kick those on the bottom rung of the ladder. It stung for awhile. I was the only poet nominated. I reminded myself my voice is different and let it go. Another ouch is before this author dropped the bomb on me. I had purchased their book. Now, I find it difficult to read...<br />We all have scars, don't let them fester. There are so many nice, genuine souls to be found~ YOU are right about growing a thicker skin! Sorry, this happened to you!Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06070952447277684613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-33200846208471900582012-04-26T08:04:38.080-05:002012-04-26T08:04:38.080-05:00It seems a bit petty for other people to post stuf...It seems a bit petty for other people to post stuff about your blog on theirs. I give shout outs but if I read something I don't like, I walk away. Sorry to hear that happened. (PS - I might mention it if the person is a complete douche, but they would have to be a total douche)Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323538213636795216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-76531718901277004852012-04-26T07:06:21.952-05:002012-04-26T07:06:21.952-05:00Hey EJ, thanks for visiting by blog, I can asure y...Hey EJ, thanks for visiting by blog, I can asure you I would never say anything bad about anyone in this blogging world. So far in the 7-8 months I've been blogging I have only made warm friendly connections, must have been lucky!<br />But I don't have time for Twitter, just would not fit it into my day!<br />But, yes I do agree with you, writer's need tough outer skins, the trick is not to become bitter on the inside!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09678216576112327332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-17091743022773373662012-04-26T00:34:37.946-05:002012-04-26T00:34:37.946-05:00Every writer has insecurities and they can eat awa...Every writer has insecurities and they can eat away at you if you let them. At some point you just figure out how to work around them or ignore them.Alyson Burdettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16916059117572619004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-22692013400118892792012-04-25T18:01:27.107-05:002012-04-25T18:01:27.107-05:00It's so hard to balance the requisite sensitiv...It's so hard to balance the requisite sensitivity with thick skin. Sometimes I get them mixed up. Then my books get mean and I start crying over rejection. :/Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15981159884498574786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-7906737346619383252012-04-25T17:54:57.127-05:002012-04-25T17:54:57.127-05:00We gotta be grateful for those hateful people. Th...We gotta be grateful for those hateful people. They make our armor thicker and stronger.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08311305166391446029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-3065710585288359642012-04-25T17:48:43.861-05:002012-04-25T17:48:43.861-05:00Well, you know I love you, EJ, so 'taint me. (...Well, you know I love you, EJ, so 'taint me. (^;<br /><br />And as far as being bled... that's why I became a vampire.<br /><br />I don't do Twitter. Although I'm there (supposidly have alot of followers). I simply don't have time to mess with it. Barely have time to blog and follow blogs. I'm currently working on *laughing* my third novel and I hope to get it out of my sight SOON!<br /><br />I don't want to know what others say about me--especially strangers. HOwever, it surprises me when I learn that people around me like me. So, in your realm of actual (as apposed to virtual) friends, they are most important. <br /><br />Oh, and God, I want to scratch that cute little belly!!!!COOCHIE COOCKIE COOOO!Lorelei Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03294047277447613989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-17952853553262156602012-04-25T17:37:52.371-05:002012-04-25T17:37:52.371-05:00I try not to be paranoid nowadays. At one time I w...I try not to be paranoid nowadays. At one time I would start a blog and then delete it, or start a blog under a pen name. I still have that one but don't post much on it anymore. I got burned so badly one time that I temporarily swore I'd never blog again. My constant mantra now is: I don't care what they think, I don't care what they think. Just take a deep breath and keep on writing!Sherri Lackeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12574448009541412249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-84732223328870706542012-04-25T17:13:09.566-05:002012-04-25T17:13:09.566-05:00What an adorable underbelly. :) Yes, Hurrican Alex...What an adorable underbelly. :) Yes, Hurrican Alex has blown quite a few new followers your way, myself included. I've not noticed any negative comments, but I don;t go out of my way to look for them. As it is, even honest negative book reviews are hard to swallow, but I suppose it's something that comes with the territory. We'll just have to get used to it.<br /><br />J.C. Martin<br /><a href="http://jc-martin.com/fighterwriter/" rel="nofollow">A to Z Blogger</a>J.C. Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01567971311643106302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-79835569457693751682012-04-25T16:58:15.299-05:002012-04-25T16:58:15.299-05:00I've caught a few snide remarks on Twitter, bu...I've caught a few snide remarks on Twitter, but no one's posted anything bad on a blog that I know of. I think it's the personal stuff that would bother me more than negative comments on my writing. Personal rejection is tough.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000518581959626200.post-88176403189996728932012-04-25T16:56:48.354-05:002012-04-25T16:56:48.354-05:00I'm not sure what motivates people to go negat...I'm not sure what motivates people to go negative. To write bad reviews, or trash talk someone, or spread rumors (false and otherwise). There's so little to be gained from it. I always consider the situation and come away feeling that the person doing the negative talk usually reveals more about their own character than the person they are dissing. <br /><br />I do think, though, if a person reaches a certain level of success these days, the negative stuff goes with the territory. It does seem that a person either has to learn to shut it out or grow some very, very thick skin.Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.com